Yes, before you ask, it's legit...I called the number I have in my file for the organization, just to be sure. And they ARE preparing to publish such a book at this time.
But today's experience in making one of the calls was rather unique. The male clerk pulled up my info, and for 3/4 of the call, he addressed me as Ms. I made no attempt to disguise my voice in the slightest, and from prior posts, you know "it is what it is...male." Apparently he finally reached the part of the file which shows my gender...and Ms. became Mr. Amazing how quickly I changed genders! But it was fun while it lasted...
Earlier this week, it was Senior Day at the pharmacy...and once again, I was using my wife's discount card to make a purchase. As usually happens, the clerk addressed me by my wife's first name...despite the fact that I was wearing shorts, a tank top, and flats. No skirt, makeup or jewelry. Definitely it's becoming a habit for them, one which I enjoy!
On Wednesday was my dentist appointment on the other side of the bay. It was a solo trip, so after my appointment with the dentist (to which I wore shorts, a tank top, pantyhose, flats and light makeup), I applied lipstick and stopped in to see my old seamstress. It wasn't just a social visit to say hi; I had a skort and blouse to be altered. And her dressing room turned out to be a wonderful spot to change into a skirt - particularly the one I'd like to find a black blouse to wear with. She was happy to see that I was getting out and about in skirts - "you should do that more often." I agree with her - and I wish I could!
Afterward, it was off to the thrift shop to see if the black blouse and wedge peep toe pumps were still there. Unfortunately, it was discount day, and the place had been seriously picked over already. Both were gone. And nothing else looked right with the red-and-black skirt seen below. I guess I wasn't the only girl who liked the blouse and shoes!
Then it was off to the cell phone store I formerly used, when we lived on the other side of the bay. Enroute to the store, the sky was ominous and leaking a bit. However within a couple of miles, the rain came in earnest. Serious rain...like 2" an hour. Took me about 15 minutes to drive that last mile, and get parked. Rain let up just a bit, so I ran inside. A lady waited on me... She didn't use any gender-specific terms, and I did nothing to alter my voice. As it was still raining and I didn't want to get soaked, I went ahead with plans to buy a new phone, and have her set it up for me. Again, nothing was said about my attire - or my gender. That is, until one of the other clerks said "goodbye, sir" as I left with my purchase. Darn - their score was perfect up to that point!
For those who wondered...no, it's not a smart phone. I don't need that technology....and am getting too old for it. BTW, we have been butt-dialed by our son too many times to count - and have watched him charge his smart phone all night overnight every night, then again mid-day every day - to want to even deal with it. (They can put a man on the moon, but can't design a battery that lasts longer than half a day. Go figure.) A dumb phone - which can generally go a couple weeks on standby between charges - is fine and dandy. (The specs of the new one say it can last up to 30 days on standby, which if true, is excellent - since I only keep it on for the nursing home to contact me.)
The next day I attended a meeting at the nursing home, about my mother's care. It was a typical meeting, with one new attendee, a middle-age woman. I was wearing my shorts, pantyhose, flats and a pink button-down shirt, and was already seated when she entered the room. As we stood to leave, she came around the corner and said with a big smile "Wow, I see some really nice legs on you - and you're wearing shorts." I said "yes" with a smile, thanked her, and said "I've been wearing either shorts or capris for a while now. Guess our paths haven't crossed since cold weather left. (And that's the case. She's usually barricaded in her office.)
"So you'll be wearing your shorts the rest of the summer?" "You can look forward to it." Her reply was "I hope so...you have very pretty legs. See you later!" The whole exchange may have been completely inappropriate in a business setting...but I don't really care...I loved the attention! (And it's only a problem if someone complains. Neither of us are going to complain! ) Wonder what her comment would be if I show up in a skirt? I plan to try it one day...just for kicks.
And that gave me an idea - something I haven't done previously: pictures of my legs in skirts... Yes, I really should wear them more often!
More later...
Mandy
My work has pretty much dictated that I had to move to a smart phone. I hate it. It just does not have the same mentality as I do. My wife still has a flip phone. Hardly ever needs a charge. My phone seems to lose charge doing nothing. I have figured out how to play solitaire on it and that is a nice occasional divergence.
ReplyDeleteI can often get away with wearing pantyhose without socks under slacks. My wife will sometimes notice and other times remain silent, so I do not know if she noted it or not, but I cannot fathom wearing pantyhose with shorts out of the house. Was this something that it took a while to get your wife used to or is this for when you are not running in the same circle as your wife. Inquiring minds want to know.
I can understand that on hot and humid days that pantyhose can be a tad uncomfortable but on all other occasions I like the feel of pantyhose, whether under slacks or just hanging around the house or getting dressed to go out. I cannot understand why women would not wear them more often than they do. In my opinion legs look better in pantyhose than when bare almost all the time, whether on men or women.
I like your selection of skirts. I think that for most women and especially those of our vintage a skirt that comes to the knee is the most flattering and appropriate. Your legs do look much better in the photos wearing heels than when wearing flats or sandals. I would be flattered and encouraged by the comments that you received from your seamstress and even more so by the comments at the nursing home. Keep on pushing the envelop. You are doing well.
Pat
If I use the flip phone, it, too, guzzles the battery. But I'm not sure how fast this new one will do it. And in reality, I'd never use or need all the capabilities of the smart phone. I will always have the laptop around when I'm away from home. So the flip phone is fine for me. Everyone else's mileage may vary.
DeleteMy wife is fine with me wearing tights/pantyhose. In fact, she got me my first few pairs of tights years ago, when I was doing outside work in the wintertime.
I have also worn pantyhose for years - at one point a doctor recommended them for better circulation. So while I buy most of my own pantyhose, she has bought some for me at times. I've grown to hate the feel of bare feet in shoes....thus pantyhose give the look of "bare" and the comfort of socks.
As far as wearing them under my short pants goes...that wasn't tough to do...if you have to wear pantyhose for circulation, shorts make it cooler in the summer. I haven't had to wear them very often under open toe sandals, but I have quite a few times under my fisherman sandals. If the heat keeps up,I see wearing them with open toe sandals as well...!
And you are so right that legs (women's or men's) look much better in pantyhose!
Thanks for the kind words about my skirts. i don't have many, but I like the ones I have!
Onw final comment...yes, pushing the envelope has definitely gotten me this far. I plan to keep on pushing!
Mandy
I first got my wife used to me wearing tights under pants in the winter. Back in the 1970s I had a job where I wore a uniform and I was inside and outside of buildings all day. I hated the feell of long johns and she gave me a pair of her somewhat stretched out white tights to wear. I loved them. After that I remember buying a pair of No-Nonsense pantyhose at a supermarket and would work them into the rotation with the tights. From there things moved forward slowly.
ReplyDeleteStarting in 1979 I was working at a desk job in NYC and commuting by subway and walking to and from the subway at both ends. Being somewhat large I was finding that my pants lets were chafing and wearing out at the crotch. Her first suggestion was to get the pants lined and I had several lined with nylon tricot. I then started to wear pantyhose daily and between the pantyhose and having some of my slacks lined I saved hundreds of dollars in suit replacement costs over the years.
I suppose if a doctor every suggests compression hose I can go your route but I do not see that happening. For now I will go sockless whenever I can with long pants and pantyhose.
Slow evolution by always pressing the envelop.
Pat
Good for you...you found an approach that worked. Nothing at all wrong with slow evolution!
DeleteMandy