When I arrived and sat down to wait, my tech's husband was there. Seeing him is not an everyday thing by any means...maybe twice or three times a year...he does nails at peak times. (Translation: not often when I'm there.) And it was very busy that day. He knows my voice, has known me as a guy for about 5 years...and always greets me as "Sir." But we've never met when I was fully dressed. My take on it was that he didn't "look up (to see how I was dressed) before he leaped." And my voice isn't particularly feminine. It was obvious that his head didn't move upward.
It was better to not try to debate the issue in public, with so many customers present. At this point, he gets the benefit of the doubt - I'll believe it was not intended as derogatory. In any event, a "gender-related discussion" in public would most likely never win any points in a conservative small town, despite recent positive vibes from Caitlyn Jenner's transition. And, when he was done with the customer he was working on, he simply left (as usual.)
The next time I'm there when it's quiet (there ARE a few days like that), or at least when not within earshot of another customer, I'll ask my tech to request that he use my first name (which is female) and simply omit the "anything else like Sir" Then if it continues to happen when I'm dressed, I'll know that he falls into the category of "more than a little bit prejudiced." At least he doesn't do my nails. And, I also know to avoid showing up at 3 PM, when they tend to be very busy...it's extremely rare to see him first thing in the morning!
Soon my tech motioned me to her table, and we discussed what she was going to do. Since I wanted to wear (and she has wanted for some time to give me) real nail color, she'll said she'll pick out something seasonal and appropriate. The fill took a while, and afterward she brought out a couple of really pretty gels "which are popular with the girls right now. Wearing gel will give you a much better, longer lasting finish." "I hope you can use regular polish, since I may not have time to come in to have it removed." She walked back to the polishes, and and when she returned, she smiled. In her hand were a bottle of metallic silver, and also pinkish-purple with very fine sparkles in it. She applied a coat of the silver, then two coats of the pinky-purple, and a top coat, drying each coat under the blue light after she applied them. "You have very pretty nails, and you'll truly enjoy showing the girls your long-wearing color." At this point I have no idea how long I'll be wearing it, or how hard the polish will be to remove. So, I'd better begin to take it off a day early. That'll leave me time to get back to the salon to have it removed, if necessary.
When I asked her why she chose that particular combination of colors, she said that "It sparkles a little, it's popular, and pretty. And it's almost the same color as you're wearing on your toes...I like to see girls with matching digits."
Here's what they look like - I like them.
And she's right...the colors are quite similar, though from different bottles. My pedicure was done almost 3 weeks ago, not recently. So it is showing some wear!
Time will tell, I guess...
More later...
Mandy
I think that your nail tech did a great job on your nails. They are quite feminine, rather seasonal and not over the top. There is a good match with your toes.
ReplyDeleteI would not lose sleep with the comments from her husband. I think that most folks just do not know how to address us. I always say I do not care what you call me...just do not call me late for dinner. Tone of voice is more important than the actual words...especially since there is confusion as to the proper form of address and the form of address that a person would prefer.
Pat
This is the comment I removed from the other post...my bad!
DeleteThanks! I love my nails this way...wish they could be colorful all the time!
Gee. we both have that same favorite phrase! And you can see by looking at me that I haven't missed too many dinners!
No, I'm not losing sleep over the tech's husband's comments. I don't see him often enough to worry. But I do hope it can be straightened out...for the customers' sake! If I look like a girl, why say "Sir?" Makes no sense...and a T-girl's money is just as good as any other female's, so that's why I think it was just carelessness.
Mandy