The car attendant on the
train from DC to Chicago referred to me using the dreaded S-word. But in fairness, he may well have had access
to my personal information on a preprinted manifest. So no harm, no foul. Several passengers referred to me as
female. That’s fine with me!
In discussion during the trip, the car
attendant mentioned that he was getting a new job and that this trip was his
last one. So his replacement (temporary
OR permanent) will see wifey and I together only on our return trip. With the possibility of serving 40-plus
customers per trip, his (or her) having only seen us together once makes it
more likely that they won’t associate the face and the name for my planned
mid-to-late August trip (which is still being worked on.) That’s the good news.
The bad news is: one of the Amtrak workers at Union Station in
DC, with whom we both deal on many of our trips, remembers me AND my wife. She now associates my wife and I as being a couple. That’s a good indication I must take much
more care regarding femininity there!
With the exception of the
dining car, where I was addressed as “Ma’am” the train staff on the San Antonio
train generally avoided any gender-specific greetings for me (us). However, on many occasions, other passengers
interpreted me as female…
Though we’ve ridden a train
over this route several times in years past, it’s always good to notice new
sights. Especially because the railroad parallels
historic and legendary US Route 66 from Chicago to Santa Monica, Calif for part of its route in Illinois. (Rt. 66 is called The Mother Road, as described by its fans) Much of it is in the country, but there are
sections in small town rural America.
Below is a picture of a well-kept gas station along what was called The Mother
Road…
And also a picture of the
Palamar Motel, a historic property in the 50’s style, somewhere along the way. One can also see occasional disconnected
portions of the very old original
concrete roadway, all cracked and weed-grown. But they still remain very much a part of the landscape there.
Next is a view of the St.
Louis Arch – the gateway to the West – from the train on the railroad bridge
over the Mississippi River, at sunset.
That’s a viewpoint you don’t get to see unless you’re on the train.
And lastly, a selfie of my
typical attire for this excursion, taken alongside the train during a smoke stop at the
Dallas train station. Before we left, I asked wifey if I should bring a pair of stirrup pants in case dressing up might be appropriate. She said "No, I'd rather you bring capris with pantyhose instead. They'll be dressy enough for anything we might do - women like them because they look less casual than shorts. And remember, you look nice in them. " So that's what I brought, and will have to wear if we need to dress up.
In case you wondered, that object rising like a huge tree trunk with holes in it behind and above the train is Dallas's Reunion Tower.
In case you wondered, that object rising like a huge tree trunk with holes in it behind and above the train is Dallas's Reunion Tower.
More to follow...
Mandy
Mandy -
ReplyDeleteIt's nice to know that your wife is comfortable with you in Capris and Pantihose.
How far is she comfortable with you dressing in public these days?
M
I suspect that the capris and nylons "fly" because the capris technically are pants, and the nylons are almost invisible. At least to many.
DeleteHowever, from a remark she made later in the trip, wearing a dress in public with her still isn't likely in the near future :-( But I continue to "push the envelope."
More on this in a future post.
M
It seems like the trip has been good in many ways.
ReplyDeleteI see your wife's comment as a major breakthrough. For her to tell you to bring Capris and pantyhose for any times you may need to dress up is a major affirmation. Her words show that. By saying that 'women like them' affirms that your tastes in wearing capris and hose are in line with woman's tastes. Even better is her comment that you need to 'remember that you look nice in them' is an acknowledgement that you will be perceived as a nicely dressed up woman. I am very happy for you.
Last night we went out for dinner again. We were up at the condo and went to a casual restaurant about 20 minutes north. I wore beige pantyhose under my shorts. My wife said nothing and I did not even pick up any odd looks from her at my legs. She tends to notice everything so it is hard to fathom that she did not realize that I was wearing pantyhose.
The evening was totally uneventful and pleasant in all regards. After dinner we stopped for a bottle of wine and a yogurt. She stayed in the car both times while I went into the liquor store and then the yogurt place. I did not perceive any 'second looks' from anyone at the restaurant, liquor store of yogurt place.
Baby steps.
Thanks, Pat! Yes, it was a breakthrough, but remember, I've been wearing capris and nylons around her and in public for a long time. Nobody cares. And she is getting used to us being addressed as two women when we are out together. I continue to "push the envelope" whenever possible.
DeleteIt appears that you have made a breakthrough in your situation...and I am happy for you! I still believe she does notice your pantyhose, and she can see that there is no reaction to them. That's why nothing is said.
Keep on "pushing that envelope!"
Mandy