After we got home from last week's excursion, two pairs of my older fisherman sandals (women's of course) with closed toes, appeared from out of storage in the basement. When I saw them, I remembered buying them several years ago, and liking them for their comfort. But because they had to be buckled on each time I wore them, and my others didn't, they fell into disfavor and eventually ended up in a box in the basement. I'm surprised they didn't disappear in the interim. But no matter...they're back, and I'm wearing them again. Pictures are below...
Though there haven't been any comments about my bright silver toe nails, the fact that I had to wear ballerinas for our entire excursion (before these sandals surfaced) sort of hints at the fact that my toes should "mostly" be hidden when we are at important meetings. (They still manage to peek out of these sandals occasionally, as you can see, but that doesn't seem to be an issue.) And up to now, my wife hasn't commented about my silvery finger nails since her original "don't use that color again" remarks. Some would interpret that as a good sign. I wasn't quite that optimistic.
Since I need another fill, I assured my wife that per her earlier request, this fingernail color would go away for our upcoming visit to our son's place. That was obviously the right answer - she smiled. But when I said I liked the color, and might wear it again sometime, the response was a severe case of "stink eye" along with the comment "Just don't." So much for her getting accustomed to my wearing it!
There is another similar, but less obvious, color which I can wear some other time. For now, back to simply clear over my fill, for the trip. No need to incite any riots, particularly just before she goes to visit her sister in August. You probably will agree that an argument about it right now would be in very poor taste....and not in my own best interests!
In the days between the above and today, not much new and exciting has happened. We are preparing for our excursion - to the Atlanta area and environs. For some odd reason, I know what I'll be wearing - shorts, the above sandals and several generic polo shirts (though capris will be a must when we are traveling.) Nothing at all out-of-the-ordinary. But we'll be meeting new people, and so I will look much like this (or with shorts instead of capris.)
Regarding Cyrsti's "Trans Dar" post, and Pat's comments about both she and her wife spotting one of our sisters working at a Lowes near her... That brings to mind a similar thing which happened to me in a railroad museum in Maine about 5 years ago. One of the female staffers sold us our tickets and gave us a bit of info about the museum...but I couldn't help noticing her hands. They were the first thing that caught my eye.
As Pat noted in her case, our clerk also sported badly-chipped purple nail polish on her rather large (for a woman) hands, and was was dressed in jeans and a museum top. (Can't say I noticed her shoes - back then I wasn't as observant. Sorry!) The next cue was her very deep voice, followed by a hint of Adam's apple. After we were out of earshot, I asked my wife if she had noticed anything out of the ordinary about
her, and the answer was no. So, perhaps I was wrong...but to this day,
I don't think so!
For the rest of our museum visit, I couldn't help thinking about that lady - and as time went on I became more certain that she was trans, though I wouldn't have dreamed of broaching the subject, in case I was in error and especially dressed the way I was...only androgynous, with no makeup. How lucky she was to be able to be "working" as a woman, despite her minor shortcomings, and in some ways I was very envious. For the next couple days, my mind kept bouncing back to her.
I hope she has progressed and has found well-paying work, perhaps at one of the more progressive and trans-friendly companies out there, or as of this past week, one of the government contractors who can't discriminate against us any more!
A final note...on Thursday, a package I had ordered from a shopping channel arrived via UPS. When I first called to place the order, they pulled up my wife's account and "miss-took" me for her. But I gave them my account number, which corrected things...and from then on I was "ma'am." When the package arrived, it was addressed to "Ms. (insert real first and last name here) at my address. My wife handed it to me without a comment...
Isn't life fun?